So glad no one is reading, no one will see I'm pleading

I've tried and tried
But clearly I failed
Every night I cried
Everyday you bailed

You said you'd never leave
Said you'd always be there
Your words, I did believe
Now I see you don't care

Excuse me, while I get the door
It's Death, and I know what he came for.

I'm no poet, but I'ma still go for it

UNTITLED
My reason is unknown
I just can't get it right
I'm left here on my own
Too tired to put up a fight

No one has my back
No one is on my side
My will is about to crack
All I have left is pride

I don't know what keeps me going
I can't help but start crying
It's hard to live when knowing
That everyday I feel like dying

But maybe there's something more for me
A silver lining in the clouds
I have know idea what it could be
My screams within, are far too loud

No Title
Where do I belong?
Not here
I knew it all along
No where

The search is futile
Hopeless
Time to rest for awhile
Lifeless

I try to hide
No reason
Can't change the tide
No point

Still No Title

There's the alarm
It's that time again
Another day begins
This cycle needs to end

Everyday is a battle
Some I lose, some I win
But this is a war
One that I am losing

What will it take
To turn this around
Whatever it is
I don't have it

Will I ever find it?
Safe bet is no
The battle's done
The war has just begun

Don't drink, just think

There's nothing left in my cup, I... give... up

Another video for you guys, an incoherent ramble at 2:00





The part about looks, even though what others say and think don't really matter, if they think you're pretty or good looking, then you are to them, and use that to help change your opinion of your own looks. But in the end it's what you think that matters... it was 2:am cut me some slack

Dealin with Stess: The Movie

I decided to make up for my two week absent with a video... enjoy

Let me spin a rhyme or two, I have some poems just for you.

Here's some poems, I feel like poetry

I’ll Ride with You Forever

Ride into the night
Don’t turn back and wonder
Pedal with all your might
Don’t ever call this a blunder

Be free, ride ‘til you’re done
Go out and meet your destiny
Don’t be afraid to run
Just don’t run for all eternity

I am here with you
I will never leave your side
Yes I swear it’s true
I am here for the ride

So go out, ride, and make your own fate
Tell me, and I’ll be sure to save the date.

Starry Skies from the Rooftops

Starry skies look so beautiful
Just you and me laying on this rooftop
It’s times like these that are so wonderful
Watch the world go round like a top

The mystery of life is solved
You and me were meant to be
Let’s get the past mistakes resolved
So we can let our souls be free

So pour your heart out
Tell me your story
Tell me what those tears are about
As we sing ‘Alive with the Glory’

Let’s make our stand here tonight
And let’s take in this beautiful sight

Somewhere I Belong

Every where I go
I long for something more
These people, I do not know
It hurts me right down to the core

I’m waiting for something
Or someone to come along
But I don’t see a happy ending
In this place I don’t belong

Nothing seems right
Everyday I put on a show
I can’t keep up the fight
My despair just seems to grow

So where exactly is this magical place?
But I know for sure it’s not in front of my face.

“Small Things”

The say it’s the small things
The little things in the day
Like when your phone rings
And you know exactly what to say

But the small things can’t out weigh
The big things that go so bad
I can’t keep the demons at bay
Those small things can’t make me glad

It’s hard to see the light
When everything goes wrong
It’s hard to keep up the fight
All you can do is stay strong

I am sick of your fantasies and optimism
I see the world what it is, call it pessimism

On this Island I Make my Stay

Everyday I wake up to a fight
It's like I'm cursed with this blight
No one to my left, no one to my right
Getting out of bed takes all my might

I find there's no where left to run
Doesn't matter, I live in isolation
It may appear like I'm having fun
I just wish I could be done

Done with the bull shit
I am so sick of it
No rest, not even for a bit
My will to go on takes a hit

While I lay down and stare at the ceiling
I realize I can't shake the feeling
That on an island I make my living
I have nothing that's worth giving

So please will just let me be
Unless you're the one here to change me

It's time for me to leave my shell, leave my own personal hell

So I've noticed I write about love, like, relationship, girls, etc etc. But for those that don't know me, I usually fail, miserably. I can go back and site the reasons but I don't see the point. I screwed up, I get it, but now I'm changing. Normally I don't agree with people giving advice who don't follow their own, but by actually writing this blog, and giving advice, what I'm doing is seeing what I have to do. Trust me, all the advice I've given, wasn't just to whoever's reading this, if anyone, but also to myself. In fact it is mostly to myself. There's two people I know that actually read this blog, and one of them reads only when I tell them I have a new one. But what this blog does is it puts what I need to do on to paper (sort of).

I talk about taking chances and risks, especially when dealing with the fairer sex. But Lord knows, when it comes to that, I am the most cautious and terrified person ever. Many refuse to believe it, I come off pretty damn confident. But the truth is, I'm just a good actor. When it comes to the nitty gritty, just me, her, and the things I want to say, I usually stay silent, and regret for a long time. But this year, that's all changing. I'm taking chances; I'm taking risks; I'm living life.

I can honestly look back at my past, and think to myself that I am better today than I was one, two, three years ago. Granted, I still am petrified of telling that someone exactly how I feel, but instead of remaining silent because I don't want to "lose what I have," I am going for it all. You only live once, and it's time to stop living in a shell.

With the support of friends I've stepped outside the shell, and I like what I see. So my advice to the anyone reading this... which is probably no one... my advice is to take a chance. Tell that girl that she's the most amazing girl you've ever met and that everyday is a treat. GO for that job you don't think you can get, just step up, whatever it is. Step up! Guys, we're supposed to make the first move, so make it. She could be waiting for you to say something... I bet she is.

"If there is a decision you need to make that scares you, its okay to make it, its okay to make the jump, there is a net below you, jump."

I looked into your eyes and swore it was true, that you're the one for me and I for you.

Dreams... we all have them. I one day dream of being the play-by-play announcer of the Red Wings. Many tell me it's a pipe dream, but that doesn't mean I'm not gonna chase it. You can't give up on your dream, your passion, whatever it is you want just because you face adversity. People tell me that about how difficult the road is of becoming a play-by-play guy is, and I am aware of it. I am ready to go wherever the job takes me, because it's what I want to do.

We have many dreams. When I was a little kid, I dreamed of being a professional sports athlete, not writer, but my passion for sports started as a little kid. Red Wing hockey and Michigan Football were engraved in my brain to be the best things on God's green Earth. My parents would say it was unintentional, but my earliest memories of childhood involve watching either Michigan football or Red Wing hockey. The bottom line, my childhood dream was to be in sports. I'm now chasing that dream in a different way, but I'm still chasing it.

There are many other dreams and aspirations we chase. Dream job, dream girl, dream house, dream life, etc , etc. I think the hardest one to find is that dream girl. You don't know what you exactly want until you find her. That's why we date, to find out if this particular girl is that dream girl. But when we find her, or who we think she might be, sometimes it can be a scary thing. You're so worried about her liking you, or maybe she's with somebody else, or there's something that keeps you from pursuing. But gentlemen, I implore you, pursue her. You'll never know until you take your shot.

Life isn't easy, neither are relationships. Sometimes there are situations that make things difficult. Maybe she's with an asshole, but she's scared to leave, maybe you two go to different schools, or live in separate states, I don't know, but love knows no bounds. If she's in a bad relationship, maybe you just need to sweep off her feet, or even simpler, tell her how you feel. And for those that maintain that distance is a problem, aren't trying. Maybe you're in a distance relationship and it's not working, my theory it's because one of you (or both) aren't going at it the right way. I have two friends that are very happy with their relationships, and neither of their girls go to State. In fact, one's in New Hampshire. Bottom line; it can work.

Anyways, I lost my point in there so I'll go back to it; you have to step up to the plate and hit one out of the park. Don't say "Oh but she has a boyfriend," if she seems into you, then say something to her. Maybe it was a lead on, or you got played, or she didn't mean to send that message. Yeah that sucks, but it's better to know that than to be sitting back and thinking "Man, I wonder if she likes me? I wonder if we could be together?" You need answers to those questions, no matter how much the truth hurts, it's better than living a lie.

Bottom line, when chasing your dream, whether the dream job or dream girl, you have to step up and take chances. You have to risk everything to get everything you've ever wanted. I recently to a big risk, I stepped out of my comfort zone. I sit here on my computer telling you that it's 100% totally worth it. There's still somethings left to be sorted out, but my chance paid off. I got probably the best result I could have hoped for. I'm not saying that it's a guarantee you will too, but I will guarantee that if you take the chance, you won't regret it. Think about it, how often do regret stories involve someone taking a big risk? not nearly as often as they involve someone letting opportunity pass them by. So don't let opportunity pass you by. Don't give up on a chance to pursue your dream because it's a long shot. Don't let her walk out, without telling her how you feel. Take a gamble, and it will pay off. Win or lose, you'll be glad you took it.

Take a chance, risk it all, and get out of your comfort zone, you'll be happy you did.

No clip for you guys, so I'm going to leave you with a quote:

"It's hard when people that have been chasing their dream that when it comes time to step up, it's not what they're used to. That's why you chase the dream. It's time to step up to the plate, and hit one out of the park." -- Billy Mays

I can't travel this road alone, I need you to change my tone

Life; don't you wish it were easier at times? I know I do. But if it were easy would it be worth it? Think about it, if everything just came easy to you, would you be truly satisfied? I know I wouldn't. People that know me know that I am one of the least motivated people on the planet, but when I am actually motivated, I am willing to go to hell and back to get what I want. The harder the battle; the more satisfying the victory.

There are many things in life that are difficult. They can be difficult in different ways: physically, emotionally, or mentally. Hard, physical labor is always a pain in the ass, but when the projects done, don't you feel more satisfied at what you just accomplished. But physical challenges are probably the easiest of the three, granted there not easy, but mental and emotional obsticals can seem daunting and impossible.

Those mental challenges are difficult. It's one thing to over come some physical challenge, but to overcome a mindset that you can't is more difficult. The "I can't" thought process is a killer. It's hard to overcome, but if you don't overcome it, then you will never live. You've got to throw yourself 100% at overcoming the mindset. "I can't pass this class" "I can't get a girl like here" "I can't do it." Those sayings are excuses, right? Well yes, but no. See they are excuses, but not in the simple form. It's an excuse not to try, but it's a mindset keeping someone from being able to try. It's a barier that needs to be shattered. The "I can't" belief comes from a fear of failure, a fear of letting himself or others down. But I implore you to start thinging this instead, "Who cares?" Who cares if you fail. You have to fail in order to succeed. Without failure, there's nothing to motivate us to success. Stop being afraid of failure and embrace it. Use it as a motivator. I don't want to fail, I want to succeed, but you can't succeed unless you make an attempt. Giving up because of the fear of failing is an even bigger failure than trying and failing. You'll never know til you try, so overcome the fear of failure and just give it your all. Overcome those mental blocks telling you that you can't do it, and just do it. (copyright Nike cooperation)

Ah yes, now it's part three of the 5 paragraph essay format this blog is shaping into. Those emotional challenges. These are the hardest to overcome, at least in my humbly out-spoken opinion. Challenges at an emotional level just screw with everything. They wear on you physically and mentally. People lose sleep, get sick, or even can't function when going through emotional stress. Whether it's as serious as a huge break-up or a death, to the smaller things like a girl that gives you butterflies in your stomach or someone moving away from you. These are all emotional challenges needed to overcome. Now i feel like I'm repeating myself, but you overcome these with help from your friends. They'll be there for your support, whether it's playing roller hockey for 5 hours after your grandma's funeral to take your mind away, or them giving you the strength and encouragement to tell that girl how you really feel. Friends are one of the most valuable things in life, and a good one is something hard to find. So don't be afraid to ask your friends for some help, if they're true friends they'll be glad to help. And to tie this paragraph with my theme, and that's difficult challenges, I shall add some filler. Emotional challenges are the most difficult to conquer. Depending on the situation, there's different ways to approach it. Sometimes, you have to find a distraction for even just a little bit. But you have to attack it head on. It's hard to accept death, and the way to deal with it is not to forget, but to remember. Remember the good times, remember why that person was important to you. You may have some tears, but in the end, you'll smile. Memories are a precious thing. And when it comes to that tricky thing called love, you have to lay it all out on the line. Let it all hang out, just have to overcome the difficulty of being vulnerable, like my last blog talked about. So read that...

Life is full of challenges that need to be overcome. But these challenges make life worth living and make us stronger. We have to take chances, and overcome the fear of failure. We cannot truly succeed if we fail. And when we do succeed in the face of failure, life is much more satisfying.

Here's my point summed up, Bobbo Style:

Take a Chance

YEs I do realize who sings this song, i didn't find a music video, so just listen while you read


Chance, gambles, risks... all things involved on a trip to the casino, but also three things that people need to take in life to actually live. I'll admit, I have always been someone to play it safe. So I need to follow my own advice, but I'm working on it; it's a work in progress.

It's not easy leaving yourself totally vulnerable. It's something I can't do and I know many others can't either. But it's something that inevitably will happen. If you try to hide your entire life, then you will not live. You have to lay everything out on the table at some point in your life. With a simple yes or no, you could be elated or devastated. But no matter the result, you're stronger for it. I have a saying, when it comes to facing fears, the best way to go at it is head first in the deep end. What I mean by that is don't lay yourself on the line, but only part way. For example, don't pour your heart out to a girl via text, or even over the phone. If you're gonna tell her what she means to you, do it in person.

It's difficult though, many things keep us from being totally vulnerable. Pride, fear, ego, or inexperience (there's a first time for everything, and the first time for most things can be nerve wracking). Many things keep us from being completely open and vulnerable, and they're hard barriers to break down. But if we want to truly live, we must break the walls down. Just put your head down, grit your teeth, and power through it.

The best way to get over that hump is with the help of your friends. I have the best friends in the world, and this is the first time I've ever believed that. I usually just go over these things in my head 1000 times, chicken out, and hate myself later. But I took the first step in changing that, I let someone inside my head. I sought advice, and I got what I needed. I got the encouragement to step up to the plate for once, and I'm going to swing away. Thanks for the encouragement guys, you are the best.

So here's the life lesson, bearded style. You have to lay yourself on the line for something you truly want. Tell her how you feel, make it as cliched as possible if you want. It's hard to do it, sometimes there are circumstances that make it complicated or even more difficult. Whether you're afraid that if you do take that chance and let it all hang out, you'll lose what you have. It's worth the risk, you have to step up, because she may feel the same way, but also afraid. Step up to the plate. If you find it impossible to plan out on your own, ask your friends. They'll gladly help you out. Don't be afraid to let people in nor to take a chance and leave yourself totally vulnerable.


I couldn't get the Scrubs clip I wanted, so here's the quote.

“I’ve been thinking a lot lately about taking chances, and how it’s really just about overcoming your fears. Because the truth is, everytime you take a big risk in your life, no matter how it ends up, you’re always glad you took it. ”

Loss of a Hero.

Hey, what's up you guys. I know this is almost as far after the fact I could possibly do this, but I wasn't a blogger when it happened. And plus when you lose someone you look up to, it stays with you. Now I know most of you, if not all of you, will think this is a joke but I'm quite serious. The guy I'm talking about is Billy Mays. Yes, I did say Billy Mays is important to me.

The first time I saw a Billy Mays commercial, I honestly was laughing. I used to say he's the guy paid to make a big mess, then clean it. But his commercials grew on me, and I looked at his career, and thought, "Man, how awesome would it be to do this." I seriously saw a little bit of myself in Billy Mays. He was loud, obnoxious, and demanded attention. Just in those two-minute spots I saw similarities between me and this bearded man on tv. That connection I saw is what inspired me to consider a career in the media. I thought about being a pitchman, I had always been told I'd make a great salesman. But sports are my passion, and that's what I'm pursuing, But because of his commercials, I strongly considered being a pitchman.

Billy Mays also helped me through some bad times. How can that be? Well, he didn't do it directly. See the thing about Billy Mays is that he become a pop culture icon. His popularity skyrocketed to a point where there were many youtube videos involving him. A particular set of videos really got me, and a friend of mine, through some rough times. I discovered the Jabooty Dub videos and could not stop laughing. They really took my mind off the crap I was going through around that time. My friend was going through some girl problems as well, so I sent him a dub, Mighty Putty dub. He called me the next day, saying "Dave, I usually don't watch the videos you send me cuz they're dumb. But this one, I couldn't stop laughing, this made my night, I watched it at least 50 times." So Billy didn't make those videos, but if Billy Mays wasn't Billy Mays, then those dubs would not have been made, and those laughs would not have been shared.

I then started to watch the show Pitchmen, which if you haven't seen I implore you to watch. It gave the viewer a behind the scenes look of what goes into the job of a pitchman. These products that we all scoff at are put through a rigorous test before they're touched. Billy wouldn't do a product if he didn't believe in it, and didn't feel that the American people would benefit from it. I gained so much respect for Billy after this show. His soul purpose of doing this show was not to boost his fame level, but rather to get the products of the American Inventor out into the public, not only so that person's dream can become reality, but also to give the American People a life changing product. The show, Pitchman, opened my eyes to who was behind the blue shirt and beard. He was a humble giant that cared for his friends and family more than himself. Please, watch season one, it's amazing.

On June 28th 2009, the man called Billy Mays died of a heart condition. I remember exactly where I was. I was driving up alone to my cottage, listening to Pat Caputo's show. "This just came across my desk, but apparently the pitchman, Oxiclean guy Billy Mays died today." I was devastated. I had to pull over to the first rest top I saw just to compose myself. I wasn't crying, but I was in shock. He died at the age of 50, pretty young nowadays. He was at the top of his career, and his life was cut off too short.

Please don't give me any crap saying "Get over it," I am over it per-say, but like I said, the death of someone who influenced your life always sticks with you. I have a letter that I had written on June 27th, that I was contemplating mailing to Discovery, about meeting the Pitchmen to tutor a young hopeful. I am over it, but the influence that Billy's had on my life will always be with me. I never got to meet him, which is something I know can never happen. I would have given anything to be able to thank him for influencing what I want to do in my life.

The Man on the Island

Have ever felt like you're on an island? No, not the "grab me a Bahama Momma and let's drink," island. The "me against the world" island. It's not a fun place to be. My heart goes out to those that go to sleep at night feeling like they have no one. For the longest time I was at that point. I went to sleep feeling like the only one there for Dave, was Dave. I'm writing this because I don't want you guys to feel like it's the end of the world. Sure it hurts, but you can get through it. I also want to send a message to those that aren't alone. That go to sleep at night, knowing that somewhere someone loves them. They have a boyfriend, girlfriend, or jut tons of friends that are always talking to them. They always are doing something because someone always wants to hang out with them. Yeah those people, the lucky ones. I have a message for them, because sometimes, those people really, REALLY get on my nerves.

Being isolated sucks, alone time is good, but being alone, that sucks. So many things go through one's mind when he feels like no one is on his side. He's constantly worried; "How can I get through this? What can I do?" All of life's problems, he feels he's fighting them alone. If you scroll down you see that I talk about everyday battles. Well, everyday is a battle, and he's fighting alone. Those battles wear down on you, and when you feel like you're constantly fighting and fighting alone, it wears down on you even more. It's a tough challenge just to get out of bed, knowing that today is going to suck and that no one is on your side. Sure there's the handful of people that say I'm on your side, but they're no where to be seen when needed. Nothing drives me up a tree like the people that are "always there" for me, but when I actually need them, can't make time to talk to a "good friend" for even a couple minutes. Or they never talk unless spoken too. They never just say hi, you're not high on their list. I have people I was really close to, that just stopped talking to me. It felt like pulling teeth trying to talk to them, so I stopped too. Haven't heard from them since.

But that's not the point, the point is that being isolated sucks and people annoy me. And for those that are isolated, I feel your pain. It sucks, yes, but it's not the end of the world. Even though it may not seem like it, there is at least one person who is there for you. I guarantee there's at least one, which doesn't help much, but there is one. The trick is you gotta find that one. Find that person that actually cares about you. Heck give me a call if you need to, I'll answer.

Now to those people that drive me nuts, the ones that have a million friends so who needs that one guy anymore... people. You people drive me insane. How can you ignore that cry for help of a fellow human being, let alone someone that's a "good friend????" I know life looks good on that pedestal, way up there, but sweetheart, it's a looooong fall. If you are truly a friend, you will make time for someone who is making a clear cry for help. You people drive me nuts. We get it, your boyfriend is amazing, and you go to sleep knowing he loves you. But you still have "friends" make time for them. Why don't you send that person a text right now, ask them what's up? The signs of someone feeling alone are easy to spot, Stevie Wonder could probably see them.

And also, to those people with the million friends, always busy with them, always knowing that you're not alone, stop telling me how to live my life please. Stop telling me that "Oh you're not alone, I'm here for you." Ummm no, you're not. I know your ego tells you that, but it's not true. I hate it when people give me advice when they don't know my situation. But Dave, you're giving advice to people and you don't know... Well I'm giving advice on situations I've been through, so I do know. But those people with the boyfriends or girlfriends, that can go to sleep peacefully at night, need to wake up and seriously start thinking of others. Either stop pretending to be friends with the person you never talk to, or actually be a friend and listen to them. Help them through their problems, they desperately need it.

It also bugs me when these people act like they're nothing, or no one can possibly love them. Oh Bull Sh** Santa! Your Facebook is constantly flooded with people just stopping in to say hi! You never have a night to yourself, that's because you always have friends to hang out with. So stop saying oh woe is me. It really bugs me because those people are just attention w**res. They want you to say, "Oh no worries, I'm here for you." Those people bug me. Maybe they do feel alone, because they want something more, and by that I mean a boyfriend/girlfriend. That's alright, if thats what they're complaining about. If they just say oh I have no friends, slap them. If they're lonely because of no luck in love, well my sympathy goes to them because I share that pain.

See this was a giant rant but I had to say it. I want you, the reader, to be more aware of your friends. If you're going to "be there" for them, don't disappear when the time comes they need you. And I know your life is busy, but not everyone is going to come asking for help. Using that as an excuse is not good enough. It's not hard to tell when a friend is in trouble, so ask them. The ego is an amazing thing... It can keep someone from asking for help, instead just quietly hoping someone will notice. Don't ignore the signs of a "friend' in need, or don't even bother calling yourself a friend.

Also be aware that it's easy to dish out advice from your pedestal, but also know that advice isn't what someone always needs. They just need a friend. Just because your life is perfect, doesn't give you the right to tell me how to live, or what I've got to do. Ask them what they need, how you can help, how their day was, etc , etc. The comfort of a true friend may help.

And to those of you on an island, it's hard to be out there, but know that it's not a burden that you can't bear. Find the friends that are actually friends and rely on them to get you through the day. I bet there is at least one person that will fight those battles with you, so find them. Ask for some help, swallow your pride.

Here's a nice Scrub clip for this moment.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMVKDHqldwM#t=5m30s

Everyday Battles

Have you ever heard people say "it's the little, everyday things that get me through the day," or something to that extent? I know I have. And those little things; a blue sky, birds chirping, a grassy meadow to lay in, et cetera et cetera; are nice 'n all, but see there's more than just "life's simple pleasures" because there's also little battles that are fought everyday. Sure birds chirping is a beautiful sound, but it's not what gets me through everyday. That simple pleasure is usually countered with some tiny battle I have to fight everyday. Whether my struggles with ADD in a class that's already kicking my ass, or just the stress that builds everyday from that same class. But ya know what? I'm gettin a little tired of fighting everyday. I'm pretty sure I'm slowly losing my sanity.

Now folks, just cuz I said I'm gettin tired of fighting everyday, and I don't wanna fight every damn day, doesn't mean I'm writing my suicide letter. I just feel like I'm backed into a corner for the first time in a long time. I've been fighting and fighting, every day. FIghting with my psyche, fighting with someone, fighting with stress. Whatever it is I'm fighting, you better believe I'm doin it everyday. Small battles start to add up, and what you could say is that I'm gettin tired. Just physically and mentally tired, worn out. Little things add up, and fighting everyday starts to take its toll and wears on your mentally and physically.

Now what do you do if you have a friend that's shutting down? Well you can distract them from whatever it is. Take them out, hang out, something, anything usually helps. Let them know that they aren't alone, that these battles aren't solo missions, that they have help along the way. This paragraph isn't telling anyone reading this to call me and feel sorry for me, I'm just trying to get people aware of when a friend is struggling and what to do. If you read this and feel compelled to call me, I probably won't tell you anything, no offense.

And for those strugglin and fighting everyday of your life, what you gotta do is find your way of gettin by. Just find what it is that'll get you through the day. Whether it's losing yourself in music, writing a blog entry, or even going out and enjoying those little things.

Everyday is filled with battles, the key is figuring out which ones are worth fighting, because if you fight them all, you'll never make it out alive.

Perfect Song:

Sometimes... I really hate people.

Hello everyone, it's time for some life lessons. Today I am inspired to write on this blog. maybe it's my 8am professor boring me with her hippie talk, or maybe it's what went down yesterday with a friend of mine. I won't tell her story with great detail, I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate it, but it did get me thinking. And I want to share my thoughts.

This friend of mine, let's call her Helen, has been having some trouble lately, and I hate to see my friends in distress. I always want to do whatever I can to help out my friends in their time of need. You know what? That's lesson number one: help out your friends in their time of need. Be a good friend; it'll go a long way. But she's one of the many people out there that have low self-esteem. Believe it or not, sometimes I have some confidence issues, I just hide it well, but that's not the point.

Why does she have low self-esteem? Because people have constantly put her down in her life, tell her she's not pretty, no one will put up with you, blah blah blah other bull sh** that makes me angry. What the hell is wrong with people? I don't understand why people take perverse pleasure in just belittling someone for the hell of it. Don't do it people. It makes me sick that people just beat down a person to the point where they start to believe themselves. It just makes me sick.

I know these issues aren't as simple as someone saying, "There there, don't listen to them, you're beautiful," but that doesn't hurt. If you know of a person that is just constantly abused like that, I want you to do the opposite. Raise their self-esteem, be a good friend. And don't do nothing, just because you're not the source of the problem, doesn't mean you're not part of it. If no one comes to the support of a person, well of course they're going to start to believe it, no one says the opposite, so they all must think it. That's the mindset, that's the mindset I had at least.

So here's my message to you guys: Be there for a friend in need. Whether it's something big like a break up or a death in the family, or the little things like just feeling a little blue or lonely. If you let them know your there, they can heal much faster. The mind and body heals faster in a healthy, good environment than a bad environment. So give them a good environment as best you can. You don't have to completely save them from the problem, that's probably impossible, but what you can do, is let them know you are there for them every step of the way. So please, I beg of you my audience, be there for them, don't let them sit alone, let them know they aren't alone.

This Ones for the Fans

So it's been awhile since one of these, but I'm in that kinda mood. Today though, I'm not going to have a negative one, I'm going to give advice to people and put them in a positive light. Or something... hell I don't know where it's going, let's go for a journey.

Well I feel like talking. Hence the blog, but what to discuss... Oh how bout this one. My friend, we'll call him Jim had some happenings with this girl, let's call her Jamie. Oh and this is going to be a negative now. I could just retype the opening but I don't roll that way. Well Jim here did something that I can't mention... because I may have younger viewers. It wasn't sex, but it wasn't Jesus-approved. In the days that followed, Jim seemed to be annoyed every time Jamie tried to talk to him. Jim was saying that Jamie was cool, but not someone he wanted a relationship with... well being friends with Jamie as well, I know what she wants. Let's just say they aren't on the same page this time. But that leads me to this point:

I HATE LEAD ONS! It's only my most hated happening in all relationship related events. I hate it more than cheating. Sure it's bad and it hurts, but when it happens you know there's nothing. When someone is just leading you on... they toy with your emotions and it screws with your head. It's the dumbest thing ever, just flirting around, doing whatever and what not, but when it comes to anything more, NO SIR. My philosophy is don't do that shit if you have no interest. What I can understand is maybe you have some interest, but then you realize it's not the best thing for you right now. But then you cut it off clean. Just tell em that. Tell them a relationship isn't what you want, then end any of the games. If you two still wanna be friends, more power to you. But don't lead the person on. That annoys the shit out of me.

It may happen by accident, heck when I've grown feelings for someone and I guess you could call it an "accidental lead on," but I know nothing could come of it. Can't control who you grow interest for. But you can control how you handle the situation. I say this: If there is a legitimate chance at a relationship, say something. Who cares if it backfires. I had it backfire with someone, and I am still good friends with her. But if you know nothing can and won't happen... this situation is a bit sticky. I think if the person has a long-term partner... you don't try to mess that up. But if it's something like a long-term friendship one party is afraid to lose, or distance keeping it from happening. Go out there like a champ and tell her how you feel.

So I took a bit of a jump there, but here's a paragraph to sum it up. Lead ons suck. Don't do it, and don't get all pissy when they want a relationship. Well no duh she wants one you've ********** her. And if there's someone you like, tell em. Take a chance. Too often in my life have I not stepped up to the plate, and I've also been shot down. Let me tell you something: Not stepping up hurts more in the long run, because you just don't know what could've happened. So I encourage you, take a chance, you'll be better for it.

Take a Moment, and Appreciate Life

Ahhh wasn't that nice? I just took a moment to appreciate life. This is the first of probably many appreciation blogs because I feel that people do not truly appreciate their life, situation, relationships, friends, etc. But today I implore you, take a break from your hectic life, and just appreciate life. This is advice I need to follow, so I'm doing it right now. But specifically I want those of you with that special someone to read this and take it to heart. Oh and yes, this will end with a Scrubs scene so deal with it.

Yay back-to-back relationship blogs! But I want those of you in a wonderful relationship, to take a moment and appreciate it. Those of you complaining about every little tiny thing, stop that. Yeah there's things that bother you, but look come on now. Okay so he doesn't text you back every single time you text. What time is it? If it's early, well no shit he didn't reply, if it's late, and I mean really late, well no shit again my friend. He does sleep ya know? Unless it's my roommate Kevin... he doesn't ever sleep. But my point is there's a reason that he isn't replying. Maybe you're right he is ignoring you... but most likely no. But my broader point is don't expect everything to be perfect, or for your partner to answer your every beck and whim.

My next bug complaint here has to do with attention. I absolutely hate with a deep burning passion anyone who complains about not getting enough attention. What the f**k are you, a dog? Who cares!?!? He has work, school work, big exam to study for, HE CAN'T SEE YOU. So deal with it. *Oh the He used is for proper grammar, unspecified sex is he, none of this he or she nonsense. I'm not attacking the ladies here, guys are just as at fault.* But not every waking moment of your life can be spent with your partner, it's a fact of life. Find something else to occupy your time... no Riley don't do that... but seriously, you're not a puppy, you don't need constant attention. If you do... then sit... roll over... good boy here's your treat.

But seriously people, every single relationship will have problems. Yes yours, and no yours isn't "special" or "different," you will have issues. It's how you deal with them. Are you gonna just bitch and moan, or are you gonna work through it? Are you going to just give up, or take a second and realize how lucky you are to have someone that's always there for you, that you can call yours? Take it from someone who doesn't, those problems and little fights are much better than the silence of being alone.

So I implore you, don't take for granted your relationship. Appreciate it, cherish it, and most importantly enjoy it. It won't last forever, but it may last for the rest of your life. Just don't take for granted being with that special someone, work past the little faults, and make it something special.

As promised, the Scrubs clip

Relationships: I suck at them.

Relationships; they're everywhere. Whether you're in one or not, you've thought about them at some point. But what does this guy, a relationship failure, have to say about them? Well my friends, I have some advice and thought i'd like to share with the world, so sit down and enjoy. But what can advice can a guy that absolutely fails at them give? Very good advice. See without failure, I wouldn't know what not to do. Sounds desperately cliched I know, but you have to learn from mistakes and the past. I'm not going to give you don't do this or don't do that, but Lord knows I could. What I'm going to do is just ramble my thoughts together into a coherent thought. This should get interesting...

First off, I would like to say this. No matter how much you may deny it, you want/need a relationship. Yes, even you, emo kid that hates the world. It's human nature. We need that person in our lives that we can be with forever, tell anything, say I <3 you. We need that significant other in our lives. It's deeply rooted within us; the need for someone to share our life with. It's a good thing my friends, enjoy it. Although for those that don't have that person, it makes us lonely, sad, and just wishing we had that someone. But rest assured, that someone's out there, just waiting for you.

But we have to work to get there, we have to work to find the one that is meant to be with us forever. So this relationship broke off, yes it's sad. But it wasn't meant to be my friends. Well how do you know, Dave? You don't know right away champ. That's why we date, we break up, and do this and that. We're searching for that one person. But don't go nuts trying to find the person, it'll happen no worries.

Relationships don't work like they do in the movies, I'm sorry but it just doesn't. How often does a relationship fail in a movie? Almost never. How often do they fail in the real world? Almost always. So don't worry if your relationship failed, it's not the end of the world. But I'm not here to tell you to just accept the problems of relationships and roll with the punches, you gotta fight.

Relationships take work. They're not easy. Every couple goes through the same thing: They fight, they bicker, they have issues. But it's the ones that are meant to be that work through. One steps up and doesn't accept the end. He fights for the girl, or the girl fights for him, but either way, someone fights for that relationship. Sometimes the fight is futile, but you must always fight for it if you truly believe in it. One thing I've always done is fight for it. I wasn't going to just give up at the first sign of trouble, and neither should you.

SO in conclusion of this ramble: Relationships are hard, we need them as humans, everyone has someone(no worries you'll find her,) you gotta fight for the relationships, and never give up on finding your one. I added that last point because I wanna say it. Don't give up, don't lose hope. Love is out there, you'll find it when the time is right.

And here's Dr. Cox summing up everything I said in 60 seconds... Scrubs is a deep show.

A different side of the Beard

Yes, it is me, the Bearded Fellow. I know there's more in life than just sports. The sports blog will remain my blogging focus. But I have more thoughts to express than just my thoughts on sports. For the few that really know me, they know that I am insightful and opinionated. I guess this blog is for rants, advice, and just a perspective on life you may not have seen.

It seems like the same situation always occurs. A good friend of mine is in this situation, and believe me buddy, I've been in the same boat, heck I still am in the boat. I call it the "JD situation." The JD can arise in many a ways, but the end result is just the same. The situation is as follows: Guy is crazy for girl, girl doesn't help, girl is taken... in what appears to be a serious/good relationship. It totally sucks trust me. You don't know what to do. It can arise in a few ways. Things are going great with a girl, facebook says she's single and so does she... then out of the blue, facebook says she's in a relationship. Well that doesn't fit into the strong/good/serious relationship mentioned before... but the result is the same. She's taken, and you're crazy about her. Or you meet a girl, things are going great. She keeps saying how awesome you are and what not. Then you do some creepin... bam taken. But eventually the JD comes about, and they're still dating and you're still waiting.

My friends JD came about in the first situation. Things were going great for him. He needed this, things weren't going so good, then this girl comes in the picture, and he's the same happy go lucky guy I remember from when we were kids. I was so happy for him. Well I got a text from him today. it was short, but heavy hitting. "Why does the same thing happen to us, Dave?" I knew exactly what that meant. You hate to see it, but it happens.

But for those reading that are JD'd or have been JD'd here's my advice to you. Don't wait, but don't be hasty. What I want you to do is begin a moving on process. Try to lose any romantic or attraction feelings. It's not possible to rid them all completely, if there were any substantial feelings. Trust me, I know. But you gotta look at the positives. Be supportive, don't cast them out of your life. It's better to have them in your life as a friend than not at all. Don't forget that.

Be strong guys, don't give up on love, you'll find the right one, or you'll find someone that will help you move on. Hell you may get lucky, this situation is called the JD... JD eventually got Elliot. But that's not why it's called the JD. When Elliot was with Sean, or Keith, both apply, that's why. And for those that don't watch Scrubs, it's basically how I described. Elliot serious with Sean(and Keith), JD crazy about Elliot. But be strong out there, maybe you'll get lucky and get your Elliot.

Hold on to hope, don't give up. FInd who or what gives you strength. And if you're reading this, maybe one of your friends is in this situation. Be there for him. It can be devastating to his psyche. I implore you to ask your friend what's up. I know, it's not what guys do. Guys don't talk or express feelings, but that shouldn't stop you from being a friend. He may not talk, he may say it's fine, but sometimes, just knowing that there is a support system, is enough to help him get out of the funk and return to normalcy.

An appropriate video for this post.