Relationships: I suck at them.

Relationships; they're everywhere. Whether you're in one or not, you've thought about them at some point. But what does this guy, a relationship failure, have to say about them? Well my friends, I have some advice and thought i'd like to share with the world, so sit down and enjoy. But what can advice can a guy that absolutely fails at them give? Very good advice. See without failure, I wouldn't know what not to do. Sounds desperately cliched I know, but you have to learn from mistakes and the past. I'm not going to give you don't do this or don't do that, but Lord knows I could. What I'm going to do is just ramble my thoughts together into a coherent thought. This should get interesting...

First off, I would like to say this. No matter how much you may deny it, you want/need a relationship. Yes, even you, emo kid that hates the world. It's human nature. We need that person in our lives that we can be with forever, tell anything, say I <3 you. We need that significant other in our lives. It's deeply rooted within us; the need for someone to share our life with. It's a good thing my friends, enjoy it. Although for those that don't have that person, it makes us lonely, sad, and just wishing we had that someone. But rest assured, that someone's out there, just waiting for you.

But we have to work to get there, we have to work to find the one that is meant to be with us forever. So this relationship broke off, yes it's sad. But it wasn't meant to be my friends. Well how do you know, Dave? You don't know right away champ. That's why we date, we break up, and do this and that. We're searching for that one person. But don't go nuts trying to find the person, it'll happen no worries.

Relationships don't work like they do in the movies, I'm sorry but it just doesn't. How often does a relationship fail in a movie? Almost never. How often do they fail in the real world? Almost always. So don't worry if your relationship failed, it's not the end of the world. But I'm not here to tell you to just accept the problems of relationships and roll with the punches, you gotta fight.

Relationships take work. They're not easy. Every couple goes through the same thing: They fight, they bicker, they have issues. But it's the ones that are meant to be that work through. One steps up and doesn't accept the end. He fights for the girl, or the girl fights for him, but either way, someone fights for that relationship. Sometimes the fight is futile, but you must always fight for it if you truly believe in it. One thing I've always done is fight for it. I wasn't going to just give up at the first sign of trouble, and neither should you.

SO in conclusion of this ramble: Relationships are hard, we need them as humans, everyone has someone(no worries you'll find her,) you gotta fight for the relationships, and never give up on finding your one. I added that last point because I wanna say it. Don't give up, don't lose hope. Love is out there, you'll find it when the time is right.

And here's Dr. Cox summing up everything I said in 60 seconds... Scrubs is a deep show.

A different side of the Beard

Yes, it is me, the Bearded Fellow. I know there's more in life than just sports. The sports blog will remain my blogging focus. But I have more thoughts to express than just my thoughts on sports. For the few that really know me, they know that I am insightful and opinionated. I guess this blog is for rants, advice, and just a perspective on life you may not have seen.

It seems like the same situation always occurs. A good friend of mine is in this situation, and believe me buddy, I've been in the same boat, heck I still am in the boat. I call it the "JD situation." The JD can arise in many a ways, but the end result is just the same. The situation is as follows: Guy is crazy for girl, girl doesn't help, girl is taken... in what appears to be a serious/good relationship. It totally sucks trust me. You don't know what to do. It can arise in a few ways. Things are going great with a girl, facebook says she's single and so does she... then out of the blue, facebook says she's in a relationship. Well that doesn't fit into the strong/good/serious relationship mentioned before... but the result is the same. She's taken, and you're crazy about her. Or you meet a girl, things are going great. She keeps saying how awesome you are and what not. Then you do some creepin... bam taken. But eventually the JD comes about, and they're still dating and you're still waiting.

My friends JD came about in the first situation. Things were going great for him. He needed this, things weren't going so good, then this girl comes in the picture, and he's the same happy go lucky guy I remember from when we were kids. I was so happy for him. Well I got a text from him today. it was short, but heavy hitting. "Why does the same thing happen to us, Dave?" I knew exactly what that meant. You hate to see it, but it happens.

But for those reading that are JD'd or have been JD'd here's my advice to you. Don't wait, but don't be hasty. What I want you to do is begin a moving on process. Try to lose any romantic or attraction feelings. It's not possible to rid them all completely, if there were any substantial feelings. Trust me, I know. But you gotta look at the positives. Be supportive, don't cast them out of your life. It's better to have them in your life as a friend than not at all. Don't forget that.

Be strong guys, don't give up on love, you'll find the right one, or you'll find someone that will help you move on. Hell you may get lucky, this situation is called the JD... JD eventually got Elliot. But that's not why it's called the JD. When Elliot was with Sean, or Keith, both apply, that's why. And for those that don't watch Scrubs, it's basically how I described. Elliot serious with Sean(and Keith), JD crazy about Elliot. But be strong out there, maybe you'll get lucky and get your Elliot.

Hold on to hope, don't give up. FInd who or what gives you strength. And if you're reading this, maybe one of your friends is in this situation. Be there for him. It can be devastating to his psyche. I implore you to ask your friend what's up. I know, it's not what guys do. Guys don't talk or express feelings, but that shouldn't stop you from being a friend. He may not talk, he may say it's fine, but sometimes, just knowing that there is a support system, is enough to help him get out of the funk and return to normalcy.

An appropriate video for this post.