Everyday Battles

Have you ever heard people say "it's the little, everyday things that get me through the day," or something to that extent? I know I have. And those little things; a blue sky, birds chirping, a grassy meadow to lay in, et cetera et cetera; are nice 'n all, but see there's more than just "life's simple pleasures" because there's also little battles that are fought everyday. Sure birds chirping is a beautiful sound, but it's not what gets me through everyday. That simple pleasure is usually countered with some tiny battle I have to fight everyday. Whether my struggles with ADD in a class that's already kicking my ass, or just the stress that builds everyday from that same class. But ya know what? I'm gettin a little tired of fighting everyday. I'm pretty sure I'm slowly losing my sanity.

Now folks, just cuz I said I'm gettin tired of fighting everyday, and I don't wanna fight every damn day, doesn't mean I'm writing my suicide letter. I just feel like I'm backed into a corner for the first time in a long time. I've been fighting and fighting, every day. FIghting with my psyche, fighting with someone, fighting with stress. Whatever it is I'm fighting, you better believe I'm doin it everyday. Small battles start to add up, and what you could say is that I'm gettin tired. Just physically and mentally tired, worn out. Little things add up, and fighting everyday starts to take its toll and wears on your mentally and physically.

Now what do you do if you have a friend that's shutting down? Well you can distract them from whatever it is. Take them out, hang out, something, anything usually helps. Let them know that they aren't alone, that these battles aren't solo missions, that they have help along the way. This paragraph isn't telling anyone reading this to call me and feel sorry for me, I'm just trying to get people aware of when a friend is struggling and what to do. If you read this and feel compelled to call me, I probably won't tell you anything, no offense.

And for those strugglin and fighting everyday of your life, what you gotta do is find your way of gettin by. Just find what it is that'll get you through the day. Whether it's losing yourself in music, writing a blog entry, or even going out and enjoying those little things.

Everyday is filled with battles, the key is figuring out which ones are worth fighting, because if you fight them all, you'll never make it out alive.

Perfect Song:

Sometimes... I really hate people.

Hello everyone, it's time for some life lessons. Today I am inspired to write on this blog. maybe it's my 8am professor boring me with her hippie talk, or maybe it's what went down yesterday with a friend of mine. I won't tell her story with great detail, I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate it, but it did get me thinking. And I want to share my thoughts.

This friend of mine, let's call her Helen, has been having some trouble lately, and I hate to see my friends in distress. I always want to do whatever I can to help out my friends in their time of need. You know what? That's lesson number one: help out your friends in their time of need. Be a good friend; it'll go a long way. But she's one of the many people out there that have low self-esteem. Believe it or not, sometimes I have some confidence issues, I just hide it well, but that's not the point.

Why does she have low self-esteem? Because people have constantly put her down in her life, tell her she's not pretty, no one will put up with you, blah blah blah other bull sh** that makes me angry. What the hell is wrong with people? I don't understand why people take perverse pleasure in just belittling someone for the hell of it. Don't do it people. It makes me sick that people just beat down a person to the point where they start to believe themselves. It just makes me sick.

I know these issues aren't as simple as someone saying, "There there, don't listen to them, you're beautiful," but that doesn't hurt. If you know of a person that is just constantly abused like that, I want you to do the opposite. Raise their self-esteem, be a good friend. And don't do nothing, just because you're not the source of the problem, doesn't mean you're not part of it. If no one comes to the support of a person, well of course they're going to start to believe it, no one says the opposite, so they all must think it. That's the mindset, that's the mindset I had at least.

So here's my message to you guys: Be there for a friend in need. Whether it's something big like a break up or a death in the family, or the little things like just feeling a little blue or lonely. If you let them know your there, they can heal much faster. The mind and body heals faster in a healthy, good environment than a bad environment. So give them a good environment as best you can. You don't have to completely save them from the problem, that's probably impossible, but what you can do, is let them know you are there for them every step of the way. So please, I beg of you my audience, be there for them, don't let them sit alone, let them know they aren't alone.

This Ones for the Fans

So it's been awhile since one of these, but I'm in that kinda mood. Today though, I'm not going to have a negative one, I'm going to give advice to people and put them in a positive light. Or something... hell I don't know where it's going, let's go for a journey.

Well I feel like talking. Hence the blog, but what to discuss... Oh how bout this one. My friend, we'll call him Jim had some happenings with this girl, let's call her Jamie. Oh and this is going to be a negative now. I could just retype the opening but I don't roll that way. Well Jim here did something that I can't mention... because I may have younger viewers. It wasn't sex, but it wasn't Jesus-approved. In the days that followed, Jim seemed to be annoyed every time Jamie tried to talk to him. Jim was saying that Jamie was cool, but not someone he wanted a relationship with... well being friends with Jamie as well, I know what she wants. Let's just say they aren't on the same page this time. But that leads me to this point:

I HATE LEAD ONS! It's only my most hated happening in all relationship related events. I hate it more than cheating. Sure it's bad and it hurts, but when it happens you know there's nothing. When someone is just leading you on... they toy with your emotions and it screws with your head. It's the dumbest thing ever, just flirting around, doing whatever and what not, but when it comes to anything more, NO SIR. My philosophy is don't do that shit if you have no interest. What I can understand is maybe you have some interest, but then you realize it's not the best thing for you right now. But then you cut it off clean. Just tell em that. Tell them a relationship isn't what you want, then end any of the games. If you two still wanna be friends, more power to you. But don't lead the person on. That annoys the shit out of me.

It may happen by accident, heck when I've grown feelings for someone and I guess you could call it an "accidental lead on," but I know nothing could come of it. Can't control who you grow interest for. But you can control how you handle the situation. I say this: If there is a legitimate chance at a relationship, say something. Who cares if it backfires. I had it backfire with someone, and I am still good friends with her. But if you know nothing can and won't happen... this situation is a bit sticky. I think if the person has a long-term partner... you don't try to mess that up. But if it's something like a long-term friendship one party is afraid to lose, or distance keeping it from happening. Go out there like a champ and tell her how you feel.

So I took a bit of a jump there, but here's a paragraph to sum it up. Lead ons suck. Don't do it, and don't get all pissy when they want a relationship. Well no duh she wants one you've ********** her. And if there's someone you like, tell em. Take a chance. Too often in my life have I not stepped up to the plate, and I've also been shot down. Let me tell you something: Not stepping up hurts more in the long run, because you just don't know what could've happened. So I encourage you, take a chance, you'll be better for it.

Take a Moment, and Appreciate Life

Ahhh wasn't that nice? I just took a moment to appreciate life. This is the first of probably many appreciation blogs because I feel that people do not truly appreciate their life, situation, relationships, friends, etc. But today I implore you, take a break from your hectic life, and just appreciate life. This is advice I need to follow, so I'm doing it right now. But specifically I want those of you with that special someone to read this and take it to heart. Oh and yes, this will end with a Scrubs scene so deal with it.

Yay back-to-back relationship blogs! But I want those of you in a wonderful relationship, to take a moment and appreciate it. Those of you complaining about every little tiny thing, stop that. Yeah there's things that bother you, but look come on now. Okay so he doesn't text you back every single time you text. What time is it? If it's early, well no shit he didn't reply, if it's late, and I mean really late, well no shit again my friend. He does sleep ya know? Unless it's my roommate Kevin... he doesn't ever sleep. But my point is there's a reason that he isn't replying. Maybe you're right he is ignoring you... but most likely no. But my broader point is don't expect everything to be perfect, or for your partner to answer your every beck and whim.

My next bug complaint here has to do with attention. I absolutely hate with a deep burning passion anyone who complains about not getting enough attention. What the f**k are you, a dog? Who cares!?!? He has work, school work, big exam to study for, HE CAN'T SEE YOU. So deal with it. *Oh the He used is for proper grammar, unspecified sex is he, none of this he or she nonsense. I'm not attacking the ladies here, guys are just as at fault.* But not every waking moment of your life can be spent with your partner, it's a fact of life. Find something else to occupy your time... no Riley don't do that... but seriously, you're not a puppy, you don't need constant attention. If you do... then sit... roll over... good boy here's your treat.

But seriously people, every single relationship will have problems. Yes yours, and no yours isn't "special" or "different," you will have issues. It's how you deal with them. Are you gonna just bitch and moan, or are you gonna work through it? Are you going to just give up, or take a second and realize how lucky you are to have someone that's always there for you, that you can call yours? Take it from someone who doesn't, those problems and little fights are much better than the silence of being alone.

So I implore you, don't take for granted your relationship. Appreciate it, cherish it, and most importantly enjoy it. It won't last forever, but it may last for the rest of your life. Just don't take for granted being with that special someone, work past the little faults, and make it something special.

As promised, the Scrubs clip