Have ever felt like you're on an island? No, not the "grab me a Bahama Momma and let's drink," island. The "me against the world" island. It's not a fun place to be. My heart goes out to those that go to sleep at night feeling like they have no one. For the longest time I was at that point. I went to sleep feeling like the only one there for Dave, was Dave. I'm writing this because I don't want you guys to feel like it's the end of the world. Sure it hurts, but you can get through it. I also want to send a message to those that aren't alone. That go to sleep at night, knowing that somewhere someone loves them. They have a boyfriend, girlfriend, or jut tons of friends that are always talking to them. They always are doing something because someone always wants to hang out with them. Yeah those people, the lucky ones. I have a message for them, because sometimes, those people really, REALLY get on my nerves.
Being isolated sucks, alone time is good, but being alone, that sucks. So many things go through one's mind when he feels like no one is on his side. He's constantly worried; "How can I get through this? What can I do?" All of life's problems, he feels he's fighting them alone. If you scroll down you see that I talk about everyday battles. Well, everyday is a battle, and he's fighting alone. Those battles wear down on you, and when you feel like you're constantly fighting and fighting alone, it wears down on you even more. It's a tough challenge just to get out of bed, knowing that today is going to suck and that no one is on your side. Sure there's the handful of people that say I'm on your side, but they're no where to be seen when needed. Nothing drives me up a tree like the people that are "always there" for me, but when I actually need them, can't make time to talk to a "good friend" for even a couple minutes. Or they never talk unless spoken too. They never just say hi, you're not high on their list. I have people I was really close to, that just stopped talking to me. It felt like pulling teeth trying to talk to them, so I stopped too. Haven't heard from them since.
But that's not the point, the point is that being isolated sucks and people annoy me. And for those that are isolated, I feel your pain. It sucks, yes, but it's not the end of the world. Even though it may not seem like it, there is at least one person who is there for you. I guarantee there's at least one, which doesn't help much, but there is one. The trick is you gotta find that one. Find that person that actually cares about you. Heck give me a call if you need to, I'll answer.
Now to those people that drive me nuts, the ones that have a million friends so who needs that one guy anymore... people. You people drive me insane. How can you ignore that cry for help of a fellow human being, let alone someone that's a "good friend????" I know life looks good on that pedestal, way up there, but sweetheart, it's a looooong fall. If you are truly a friend, you will make time for someone who is making a clear cry for help. You people drive me nuts. We get it, your boyfriend is amazing, and you go to sleep knowing he loves you. But you still have "friends" make time for them. Why don't you send that person a text right now, ask them what's up? The signs of someone feeling alone are easy to spot, Stevie Wonder could probably see them.
And also, to those people with the million friends, always busy with them, always knowing that you're not alone, stop telling me how to live my life please. Stop telling me that "Oh you're not alone, I'm here for you." Ummm no, you're not. I know your ego tells you that, but it's not true. I hate it when people give me advice when they don't know my situation. But Dave, you're giving advice to people and you don't know... Well I'm giving advice on situations I've been through, so I do know. But those people with the boyfriends or girlfriends, that can go to sleep peacefully at night, need to wake up and seriously start thinking of others. Either stop pretending to be friends with the person you never talk to, or actually be a friend and listen to them. Help them through their problems, they desperately need it.
It also bugs me when these people act like they're nothing, or no one can possibly love them. Oh Bull Sh** Santa! Your Facebook is constantly flooded with people just stopping in to say hi! You never have a night to yourself, that's because you always have friends to hang out with. So stop saying oh woe is me. It really bugs me because those people are just attention w**res. They want you to say, "Oh no worries, I'm here for you." Those people bug me. Maybe they do feel alone, because they want something more, and by that I mean a boyfriend/girlfriend. That's alright, if thats what they're complaining about. If they just say oh I have no friends, slap them. If they're lonely because of no luck in love, well my sympathy goes to them because I share that pain.
See this was a giant rant but I had to say it. I want you, the reader, to be more aware of your friends. If you're going to "be there" for them, don't disappear when the time comes they need you. And I know your life is busy, but not everyone is going to come asking for help. Using that as an excuse is not good enough. It's not hard to tell when a friend is in trouble, so ask them. The ego is an amazing thing... It can keep someone from asking for help, instead just quietly hoping someone will notice. Don't ignore the signs of a "friend' in need, or don't even bother calling yourself a friend.
Also be aware that it's easy to dish out advice from your pedestal, but also know that advice isn't what someone always needs. They just need a friend. Just because your life is perfect, doesn't give you the right to tell me how to live, or what I've got to do. Ask them what they need, how you can help, how their day was, etc , etc. The comfort of a true friend may help.
And to those of you on an island, it's hard to be out there, but know that it's not a burden that you can't bear. Find the friends that are actually friends and rely on them to get you through the day. I bet there is at least one person that will fight those battles with you, so find them. Ask for some help, swallow your pride.
Here's a nice Scrub clip for this moment.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMVKDHqldwM#t=5m30s
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