Yes, it is me, the Bearded Fellow. I know there's more in life than just sports. The sports blog will remain my blogging focus. But I have more thoughts to express than just my thoughts on sports. For the few that really know me, they know that I am insightful and opinionated. I guess this blog is for rants, advice, and just a perspective on life you may not have seen.
It seems like the same situation always occurs. A good friend of mine is in this situation, and believe me buddy, I've been in the same boat, heck I still am in the boat. I call it the "JD situation." The JD can arise in many a ways, but the end result is just the same. The situation is as follows: Guy is crazy for girl, girl doesn't help, girl is taken... in what appears to be a serious/good relationship. It totally sucks trust me. You don't know what to do. It can arise in a few ways. Things are going great with a girl, facebook says she's single and so does she... then out of the blue, facebook says she's in a relationship. Well that doesn't fit into the strong/good/serious relationship mentioned before... but the result is the same. She's taken, and you're crazy about her. Or you meet a girl, things are going great. She keeps saying how awesome you are and what not. Then you do some creepin... bam taken. But eventually the JD comes about, and they're still dating and you're still waiting.
My friends JD came about in the first situation. Things were going great for him. He needed this, things weren't going so good, then this girl comes in the picture, and he's the same happy go lucky guy I remember from when we were kids. I was so happy for him. Well I got a text from him today. it was short, but heavy hitting. "Why does the same thing happen to us, Dave?" I knew exactly what that meant. You hate to see it, but it happens.
But for those reading that are JD'd or have been JD'd here's my advice to you. Don't wait, but don't be hasty. What I want you to do is begin a moving on process. Try to lose any romantic or attraction feelings. It's not possible to rid them all completely, if there were any substantial feelings. Trust me, I know. But you gotta look at the positives. Be supportive, don't cast them out of your life. It's better to have them in your life as a friend than not at all. Don't forget that.
Be strong guys, don't give up on love, you'll find the right one, or you'll find someone that will help you move on. Hell you may get lucky, this situation is called the JD... JD eventually got Elliot. But that's not why it's called the JD. When Elliot was with Sean, or Keith, both apply, that's why. And for those that don't watch Scrubs, it's basically how I described. Elliot serious with Sean(and Keith), JD crazy about Elliot. But be strong out there, maybe you'll get lucky and get your Elliot.
Hold on to hope, don't give up. FInd who or what gives you strength. And if you're reading this, maybe one of your friends is in this situation. Be there for him. It can be devastating to his psyche. I implore you to ask your friend what's up. I know, it's not what guys do. Guys don't talk or express feelings, but that shouldn't stop you from being a friend. He may not talk, he may say it's fine, but sometimes, just knowing that there is a support system, is enough to help him get out of the funk and return to normalcy.
An appropriate video for this post.
"It's better to have them in your life as a friend than not at all. Don't forget that."
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And coming from a girl on the opposite side of the JD, the girl does not always mean for the pain. Sometimes it's just bad timing. This is possibly one of the most difficult situations to happen to a guy and it breaks my heart to see it occur.
Yeah it happens, I've had it happen to me, now to my friend and it sucks. But that quote is so true, and if I didn't live that quote, I wouldn't have the great friendship I have with that person.
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